HOW TO BE TRULY HAPPY - Motivational Speech | Joe Rogan

HOW TO BE TRULY HAPPY - Motivational Speech | Joe Rogan

i think a lot of what happiness is a management issue and decisions that you're making right now like you could be in a sh state of mind right now but you can make some decisions to adjust that and over the next couple hours you'll get to a much better place and these constant management decisions they waiver in and out of your life on a daily basis like this idea that you could have a good mindset then also you'll be happy that's horseshit like it's that's like it's like the tide it comes in and it comes down there's gonna be days where you're just not feeling so good physically and that's going to affect the way your happiness level is it's never static it's not exactly the same this is something i've cultivated for a long time and avoided things that make me unhappy and figured out what those things are and been very rigid about eliminating them from my life and one of the big ones is eliminating interactions with people that are negative that is gigantic and because i've realized that i'm not really as independent as i used to like to think i was i used to like to think that my thought process was independent and that i don't give what anybody thinks that's nonsense people say that because they absolutely care what people think and it bothers them so they say i don't give a but that i don't give a stuff is almost entirely nonsense you do care and you care in both ways you care if people are critical of you care if people are positive you but you also care if people are living positive lives and they're motivating you that's that's a big one people are fuel you know like just talking to you about your time in the monastery or your your push to get to that hundred miles like you get energy out of people like that and you think about this energy and you think about this inspiration when you're doing other things and it also sets in your mind that when you meet these exceptional people that move you like what are the characters what are the qualities that they have what are the characteristics that they that they possess and those things become significant and important to you whereas if you live around a bunch of people that are complaining and bitching about everything and they see the negative in everything and they're always whining those people are the opposite of that they're the opposite of inspiration and they're just they're they're mud you're just like it's like you're up to your ankles in mud you try to trudge through life it's difficult you're not light it's not it's not pushing it there's not a wind at your back the wind's in your face and it's rough you know and over time i've learned that these people you just you're not going to fix them i used to want to fix them when i was young i used to want to go hey man i see what you're doing like dude don't do that anymore listen just try just just do this and and stop doing that and start doing this and if you just work towards this you could be successful and then a week later the guy's doing the same you're like okay i'm wasting a significant amount of my energy on someone who doesn't want to waste any of their energy on themselves and so managing the the community and the tribe that you're in making sure that you're a good member of that tribe that you're doing your part when you're around happy inspirational people that are successful it makes you feel better and you get inspired and if you act on that inspiration your life will be more fulfilled and it's not just inspirational in terms of financial success but in terms of doing difficult things whether it's running a hundred miles it doesn't pay you a goddamn thing other than the the the wealth of the knowledge that you can push yourself to such an extreme or anything else whether it's someone who becomes really good at playing chess or someone who's really good at martial arts or or whatever it is there's there's a great feeling in these overcoming these difficult things because life is never this just constant state of i'm at a nine all day and when i'm with my wife i hit 10

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yay and i stay like that that's not real what's real is like you saying that you went to this monastery and felt all this this angst about meditating and being alone and not having your phone and not having the input but then when it comes out of it then you have this reward so you you push through this and you have these uncomfortable feelings and you came out of those uncomfortable feelings with this newfound appreciation for time and this new found this respect for your own existence in your own space and carving out three hours for yourself a day that's where it all comes from it all comes from life lessons and the lessons are learned through struggle and i think that there's a lot of people out there that think somehow or another you're going to get to some place where you're living in silk sheets and you're getting your toes done while someone's dropping grapes into your mouth i don't want that i've never wanted that you that guy's not going to be happy he's going to be bored hour into the grapes you can get those grapes away from me stop painting my toes what am i doing in this bed i got to do something i'm not stimulated the human organism the animal that we are needs constant stimulation because it evolved trying to find food and escape enemies and find shelter escape nature escape the elements try to survive and this is the great joy that you have in taking care of your children so you can protect your children from the elements and the enemies and feed them and and it's also the great sadness that you see in losers when i see a loser i see some guy who's 43 years old lives in his parents basement he hates the world i'm like that was a baby man this is a baby that somebody just gave shitty nutrients to whether it's nutrients in the forms of food or in the form of thoughts and ideas and examples and this kid developed these horrible self-defeating patterns of behavior that have led them to this point where this this middle-aged person with no future and no idea of how to get out of this rut and probably never will escape it you know i mean this is this is the world that we live in today and i think part of that world is because we have been fed this line of horseshit that you're supposed to seek comfort and i don't think you are i think you're supposed to seek lessons and you're supposed to seek difficult tasks and and and accomplishments and through those things and through doing things that are hard to do even if it's just a 90-minute hot yoga class i do a 90-minute yoga class man those last 20 minutes i do not want to be there man and i definitely don't want to give a hundred percent and i can cheat i can i could kind of half-ass it i can i can but if i don't and i get through it when that time is up and the lady says namaste and everybody gets up i'm like man i made it you know i lost 15 pounds my yoga mat is drenched to the point where i could literally wring it out and fill up a jug up with water but through that struggle i will now have a better day and i better do it again tomorrow or do something else because if i just think well tomorrow i'm just going to coast and eat twinkies and watch tv oh hello sadness my old friend hello depression because when you're not doing anything you feel like sh and that's just part of being a human being and we can pretend that we're something other than what we really are and we can pretend not me man i'm just cool just chilling doing nothing you're a human you're a human being you evolved from the hundreds of thousands of years of hunters and gatherers and people that were struggling those human reward systems are carved deeply into your dna and if you don't respect that if you don't respect the mechanism of happiness and fulfillment and what you really need to do in order to feel satisfied in life camaraderie love family friendship struggle testing yourself learning all those things are imperative they're all giant part of being a person you