How to Be Happy Every Day: It Will Change the World | Jacqueline Way | TEDxStanleyPark

How to Be Happy Every Day: It Will Change the World | Jacqueline Way | TEDxStanleyPark

Translator: hala gh Checker: Riyad Almubarak I have the hardest job on the planet I am a mother Yes! Yes! I'm a mother of three energetic kids who magically believe I'm a doctor , baker, coach, cook, healer and have the patience of a saint for 24/7. I do the best I can and some days are definitely better than others, especially in terms of being patient as a saint. I want as some parents want for their children. I want them to have a happy childhood. I want them to be free to play, to make friends, to be kind, compassionate and happy young people

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But there seems to be a small challenge. The World Happiness Report once stated that more than 220 million children and one billion adolescents suffer from anxiety, depression, and behavioral disturbances and this is not a pretty picture of happy people on a happy planet. Unfortunately, whether you're a parent or not, that's what kids learn from us. We are busy every day They feel our stress and they know that we struggle to find our happiness How can we go from depression to happiness? Some good news

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The World Happiness Report also states that the best evidence of whether a child is a satisfied adult is through their emotional health in their childhood. If I had the right, it would be easy. Happy kids, happy guys, happy planet. It's the real lesson I learned from my dad when I was a little girl growing up in a big city in London, Ontario every Christmas morning my dad would take me and my three brothers to his office . My dad was a doctor, and his office is in the hospital. Our job was to stand by the patients' beds to sing Christmas carols

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We used to start with the same songs every time and my dad, he was the leader of the band maybe she's a TEDx ex, so join me Merry Christmas Merry Christmas Merry Christmas and Happy New Year You guys are amazing. I'm going to sing to you all this year. And look at your smiles. We did it every birthday morning for those patients, they sang with us, just like you did. And their smiles were illuminating the hospital rooms. This is what I learned from our singing. Giving back to those who are sick makes them happy and so am I and we've all heard that giving makes you happy and it's better to give than to receive. But have you thought why? Well, researchers from all over the world have been studying the science and psychology of giving. And they discovered that our minds and bodies are ready to give when we give in

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This affects endorphins, gives us a high, natural feeling. This is called a high assist. Oxygen levels rise, it's the love hormone. As for you , the search for the source of youth is the natural anti-aging remedy. And I felt this when I was volunteering with my dad, and it's serotonin that transports happiness. This is what makes it better. Cortisone is the stress hormone. It reduces anxiety and stress and makes us happy. What if I told you, you can be happy every day, a 3-year-old can. Well, on Nick's third birthday, I decided to teach him to be happy every day. Teach him to give. I put the idea on the cake and ice cream, we will start the family project full of fun together. We will give to the world every day for a year. Now I waited to see the enthusiasm on the face of the enthusiasm I was feeling instead, he asked me how many days in a year? It wasn't the answer I was looking for, but Nick was a 3-year-old

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The idea of daily giving is different . I still had a box of paper and crayons, and I started over: "Nick, to be kind, loving, and giving to a human, animal, or planet." every day for 365 days. When I shared this idea with friends and family, they thought that if I could say it, I would give the world every day for 365 days with a 3-year-old. I agree, sounds like stressful work, it's that when you start with something simple Every time Nick and I start the list to keep us going it should be easy and close to home Donate towels and blankets to an animal shelter We pick up trash, we recycle Donate clothes to the donation center And the list goes on Well, keep on Nick He quickly got excited He was really excited He wanted to start on his birthday First stop at the local animal shelter to donate towels and blankets When we walked into the shelter you were instantly shocked by the smell of dogs and disinfectant We could hear dogs barking We knew they were locked in cages Handed the towels and blanket to a nice lady Seated behind the desk she smiled and thanked us for our donation When we left he noticed two glass doors leading to a room full of cats He went back to the glass and peeked back at me saying: “Mom can you see the cats sleeping on the red blanket Can our covers be theirs?” He went back to the nice lady and said: You bet" You can now see how Nick's mind works

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He was associating events that his daily work would help those cats Nick learned that from day one he came back to smiling, saying, "Amazing mom" That tender made him Happy the next day we went to the beach to have fun and play in the sun How much trash can we pick up in three minutes It's important for a 3-year-old. Nick is like brushing teeth Think about it. It would be easier if we taught a three-year-old more than brushing teeth on a daily basis. He asked me if we could share our daily work with our friends and family so they could carry on with the work and the first day I started writing a memo titled Giving for 365 You know I'm not a writer On social media, can you imagine how surprised I was when people other than my friends and family started reading the blog? They started reading and interacting from all over the world. They sent emails and left comments about their daily giving stories because they were inspired by Nick

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I was actually excited and I'm sharing some of them today. Henry wrote From London England “I meet this homeless man on my way to work today. I brought him breakfast. He was very grateful from now on I will do this work every day.” Show me from Uganda I called four children They live close to home to lunch today the kids were happy to have the meal and they felt for the first time in a long time that someone cared about them.” Amy from Australia “I am a fourth grade teacher and I started with this idea every day in my class.” I surprised them one by one

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Could this idea hit a row? I didn't know, it was just me or fate, I got a call from my friend Sarah. She's a teacher at a local middle school, and she says, "Jacqueline, I want to take Giving 365 to my class, actually, to the whole school." We were both excited, we went to work. We set out to create an educational program, a way for teachers to integrate and implement the idea of giving daily, into their curriculum, and we called it Challenge 365. It's so special because it's run by the kids. They choose what they want to give, support and influence the world in ways they choose. We started at Sarah's School, and I was excited to hear how he would give to children. Several weeks into the challenge I went down and met 7 year olds when I walked into their class, I wasn't sure who was more excited, me the kids' mother. Arman was the first. He waved his hand enthusiastically and did not wait to tell me about the pastries they had prepared and which they had sent to the local bakery

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They thanked the firefighters for all their work. Arman was smiling proudly Next Mia 's cousin Mia suffered from cancer that year, the kids and the whole class, they decided to attend the school popcorn they made $252 in a certain period and donated it to support children with cancer The reason I cried because I couldn't imagine that my project With my son it may confuse many. That's what their teacher Mrs. Storey told me, "Jacaine, my children know that their actions can make the world a better place, bringing them together, with their community, and most importantly, making my class a happy place." This challenge has reached 5,000 children in 25 schools and we are just getting started. Thank you. They share their stories with other kids, we've taken a step back into their families and communities around the world. Prepare for the challenge for the kids, but actually prepare for all of us, no matter where you live or what you do or how old you are. Imagine we all did this work, we started with one child giving every day, daily giving for 3645 we got involved and we got here with all of you let's share with everyone in the room, over 2,000 people give every day for 365 that's over 700,000 no longer just one kid with all of us We make a better, happier world A simple thing a 3-year-old can do A daily habit like brushing teeth Make your list today Look at your life, your world, your family, your day Do what makes you happy Donate, volunteer, help the neighbor, be kind to strangers This is how we change Anxiety and melancholy to happiness, together we can start with small things, to make the world better and happier Giving once a day Yes! Yes!